“Forgiveness is for you and not the other person,” is a statement that I’ve heard several times and it would always make me cringe. How would forgiving someone help me and set me free?
For a long time, I didn’t know how to forgive. I didn’t know how to “let go” of what someone else did which proved to be significant after my divorce. I never forgave my ex-husband because I was angry about what took place in our marriage and how it ended. I was satisfied with blaming him for his actions which made me very bitter.
Four years post my divorce, I decided to go on a spiritual and personal development journey to discover why I held so much anger. While on my journey, I realized that I was entertaining the same type of relationships which caused hurt and disappointment. My life wasn’t changing for the better. It was a new year and a different age, but the results were the same which led me to believe that I was a broken woman.
How could I be a broken woman? I took care of the home, I made sure that our children had what they needed, and went out with my friends occasionally. I spent time with family and did volunteer work.
If you checked out my social media, I was always smiling and it appeared as if I was living my best life, but there was a pain that existed that no one could see, including me.
Truth be told, forgiveness was never a strength of mine. I just didn’t know how to let go of the hurt, frustration, and disappointment that would arise when the wrong people entered into my life, but today is a new day because I have chosen to forgive. By making it a choice, it opened my heart and mind to start a new journey.
It was also necessary to educate myself about forgiveness. The more I learned about it, the easier life became. Here is what I learned:
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A momentary feeling of regret having children is normal and natural when a mom or dad is feeling overwhelmed, helpless or stressed.
While many may find it hard to admit, but it is perfectly natural for moms to feel an occasional tinge of momentary regret about having children, especially when she’s overwhelmed, exhausted, in a power-struggle with her child, or particularly if she’s a single mom. However, there is a smaller percentage of mothers who deep down inside knew that they would not be a good mother and honestly did not want children.
It is important to understand that a momentary feeling of regret having children is normal and natural when a mom or dad is feeling overwhelmed, helpless or stressed. I define moments of ‘stress’ as those times when you want your child do what you requested but they don’t, etc. These feelings of regret usually pass quickly and should never be spoken out loud to the child(ren).
Feelings of regret can diminish, shift, and even evolve into feelings of affection and deep love. The toughest phase for parents seems to be the toddler phase when the child must claim themself as a separate being from Mommy and Daddy through resistance, temper tantrums, saying no, and general disagreement. If the parent doesn’t feel rejected or get caught into an unresolved war with the youngster, they most often can move forward to a better place in the early elementary school years.
Here are a few steps parents can take when they are feeling a moment of regret.
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