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#LateNight #MotownMom Confession: My kids never celebrated Halloween cuz I was a broke single mom.

Late Night #MotownMom Confession: My kids never celebrated Halloween cuz I was a broke single mom. I would just tell them it was the Devil’s Weekend & since we lived in Detroit they believed me & never asked.

It wasn’t that I was ashamed to be a single mom or even broke, I just knew I couldn’t spend money on three kids to dress them up.

I know what you’re saying, I could have easily made something up around the house. I’m creative.

Yeah, but I’m tired and I was not about to exert any energy on three kids, when I worked a full-time job, was a full time published author, head of the household and barely scrapping two pennies together to get heat.

Dressing the kids up for Halloween was the last thing on my list and I enjoyed my peace over their happiness.

I sometimes extended myself, if we had a car to take them to a church friendly function where they could get a bag of candy and have a go.

Otherwise, after Halloween, I’d wait for the costumes to become discounted and buy about twenty dollars worth put it in their dress-up trunk and let them use them throughout the year to just have fun around the house.

Do I feel any sort of guilt by having them miss out on things like that for their childhood?

Actually no.

My peace of mind was really more important and once my oldest was big enough to walk around and understand what Halloween really was, she actually took the youngest one out once or twice in the “nice” parts of Metro Detroit, but like me, she wasn’t into all that walking around and funny, the younger one wasn’t all into getting candy since I never had candy readily around the house.

On a side note, I’d also buy the discounted candy and use it for their Thanksgiving and Christmas bags.

Smart Mommy.

#Winning.

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#MotownMom: New Wayne State research findings offers hope to people with fibromyalgia


A novel psychological therapy that encourages addressing emotional experiences related to trauma, conflict and relationship problems has been found helpful for people with the chronic pain condition fibromyalgia. A research team led by Mark A. Lumley, Ph.D., distinguished professor of psychology in the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences at Wayne State University, in collaboration with a team from the University of Michigan Medical Center led by David A. Williams, Ph.D., professor of anesthesiology, has released the results of its research in the prestigious journal, PAIN.

In the randomized clinical trial, 230 adults with fibromyalgia received one of three treatments, each of which was presented for eight weekly sessions to small groups of patients. The new therapy, which Lumley and co-developer Howard Schubiner, M.D., director of the Mind Body Medicine Program at Providence Hospital, call Emotional Awareness and Expression Therapy (EAET), helps patients view their pain and other symptoms as stemming from changeable neural pathways in the brain that are strongly influenced by emotions. EAET helps patients process emotional experiences, such as disclosing important struggles, learning how to adaptively express important feelings — especially anger and sadness but also gratitude, compassion, and forgiveness — and empowering people to be more honest and direct in relationships that have been conflicted or problematic.

Read more: https://wayne.edu/newsroom/release/2017/09/21/new-wayne-state-research-findings-offers-hope-to-people-with-fibromyalgia-6159

How to keep your kids and yourself safe when gunshots are fired around your house #MotownMom Musings #UrbanLife #Detroit

 

On Facebook and a friend in Detroit says she just heard shots fired outside her home and then immediately said it’s time to freaking move.

I hate to break it to people, crime is not just in the urban areas anymore. Matter of fact, the more I look at the news (which has been something new to me recently) the more it seems it’s safer in Detroit.

As a long time Detroiter and lover of the city, my children and I have a protocol which I implore all single parents to develop and make sure it’s stuck to no matter what.

As single parents, we don’t have the luxury of just getting up and moving out of the city, and we have to teach the children how to cope with the environment and to stay safe.

Single Mom’s Safety Tips: When you hear shots fired around your home, what should you & your kids do? 

  1. Do not go to the window. Please enforce this with your children. Don’t open the doors, don’t even peek out the curtains or blinds.
  2. Shut off lights inside the house you’re not using, but put on lights outside of the house to keep people from hiding around your house. Add motion lights on the outside of your home especially in spots you can’t see if you have to look out of a window. Also, invest in a camera system outside of your home. One in the back and home in the front. I suggest the Blink system for about $200. Best investment ever.
  3. If the gunshots sound close enough it’s okay to call 911, say shots were fired, give them the street and cross-street and if you don’t want to give them your address just tell them at the beginning, middle or end of the block. If you see anything let them know that too. You don’t have to leave your name or number, but at least do your part in reporting it.
  4. Afterwards, do something that calms you. Read, write, watch a funny movie to take your mind off the stress

In your community, what do you do when shots are fired?

Event: #Free Coffee & Conversation w/@KarenDumas April 1st #Detroit #MotownMom

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13 Surefire Ways To Make Life Difficult For Your Family @ModMomMad #motownmom

Check out this article from the Modern Mommy Madness site which cracked me up but also hit close to home because I’ve been very close to doing some of these.

Source: 13 Surefire Ways To Make Life Difficult For Your Family

ARTICLE: When Bullying Hits Home @entrepreneurexg #motownmom #michlit #Resilience

YE8ZOEi5_400x400Playground bullies are just a rite of passage for most school aged kids. However, when the unfair treatment comes from a teacher, how do you comfort your child? I had to dig deep in my mommy bag of comfort tools to console my 7-year old son when one of his teachers was aggressive with him, but overlooked the same actions of his classmate.

First, I let him know I loved him and he was a good son.  I advised him to make better choices in class. Just because little Johnny could get away with goofing off did not mean he should do the same.

Second, I let him know the importance of taking his education seriously.  You should work really hard in class and do extra work if you get bored.  Third, he let him know that as an African-American male in a predominately Caucasian class room he had to be careful of his actions.  Regardless of why the teacher was singling him out, I imparted a sense of responsibility to be a leader in the classroom instead of following the poor decisions made by others.

My son’s plight resonated with me because I endured bullying in the workplace from a supervisor. Described as the silent epidemic, workplace bullying is the repeated abusive behavior that is intimidating, humiliating or threatening. In the 2014 survey completed by the Workplace Bullying Institute 65 million American workers were impacted by workplace bullying.  Sixty percent of the targets are women with bosses being seventy-five (75%) percent of the perpetrators.

I was singled out for things other staff members could do without any repercussions, such as late assignments, running behind schedule or mishaps in presentations. If I was scolded for being late, I made sure to arrive at work 15 minutes early.  I completed work assignments a day early instead of the day of the deadline.  I improved my presentation skills to the point where I received compliments instead of criticism.

My transformation was not an easy one, first I had to acknowledge my strengths, weakness, threats and opportunities.  It is easy to assess others, but undergoing a personal assessment can be challenging.  I wrote a list of my characteristics that were strengths and the ones I need to improve. Every two weeks I reviewed by lists weaknesses and checked off the ones I mastered.

Second, I took the time for personal reflection and prayer. As a mother of young children and a wife, everyone pulled on me for something. Taking the time to re-charge was key to my process. I learned to confess my feelings in prayer and instantaneously forgive my bullies.  Expelling negative feelings helped me to keep a clear mind and stay focused on my work ahead.

I provide additional strategies in my soon to be released book, Resilience: Living Life by Design, which is a compilation of the experiences of 11 other women who beat the odds to overcome adversity.

About the Authors:


Angeline Lawrence

Life Strategist, consultant, author & speaker who helps people do the impossible. Resourceful, insightful and all about getting things done.

Metro Detroit, Michigan

Website: angelinelawrence.com/landing

Facebook: https://www.faceResilience1book.com/angelinelawrencewrites

Twitter: @EntrepreneurEXG

Amazon Link :Resilience: Living Life by Design  http://amzn.to/1N0H6BP

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Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet – Bob Dylan… #LiveLaughLove #motownmom #labw

Reflection ~One Year Later: 5 Things I Learned After the Divorce @phetteogburn

Reflection ~One Year Later: 5 Things I Learned After the Divorce @phetteogburn.

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Two things to give to our children… #motownmom

Mother’s Monday: A Mother Never Forgets by @DeannaKahler #MotownMom

I’m a proud mom of a wonderful daughter who joined my family through adoption. But that’s only part of my story. The truth is there were two before her. I was pregnant twice and sadly lost both babies as a result of miscarriages. Like many women, I will never forget these unborn babies or the experiences I had. They will be a part of me always. Since October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, it’s the perfect time discuss how losing a baby affects a woman and how we can all be more understanding and supportive to these grieving moms.

There are truly no words to describe what it feels like to lose a child. It’s a devastating, heartbreaking experience that you never forget. I remember feeling sad, angry, frustrated, anxious, depressed and very alone. What made it most difficult is that friends and family often didn’t understand the depth of my pain. They failed to realize that although I never saw, met or held my babies that they were still very real to me. They were my children, and I will remember them always. Many women who miscarry feel the same way. So, how can you better support them during this difficult time? Here are some tips for helping a woman who is dealing with a pregnancy loss: Read the rest of this entry