Category Archives: Motivational
Here’s to always staying positive and testing negative #YouGotThis #motownmoxiemom #happynesscoach #motownmom #wednesdaywisdom
We’re going to get a lot of crap thrown our way as we go through life, but we always have to remember there is nothing you endured you haven’t already been prepared to handle.
You can do this.
You were born to survive, thrive and complete your journey to happyness
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the Perfect Mother [video] #motownmom – we have to remember we aren’t perfect, but we can be so good we make it look easy
we have to remember we aren’t perfect, but we can be so good we make it look easy
Do you want to put a smile on someone’s face? Do something nice for another person just because?
Maybe make their day a little bit brighter?
It doesn’t have to take much time or money on your part. In fact, many things can be done as a part of your normal routine and cost little or nothing. You won’t know how many people are encouraged by your kindness because smiles are contagious.
Sometimes helping someone else smile can help you put on a better smile for yourself.
Try out one or more of these 7 ways today to put smiles on their faces.
1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!
Tip: Write with a blue pen. It’s a great mood enhancer for the person reading
2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.
Tip: Find a great indie film, invite friends over and watch and discuss it afterwards. Everyone BYOW (Bring your own wine). Tuck all the kids in the back and just enjoy spending the evening with friends.
3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.
4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of “adult time” without worrying about the children. Don’t wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.
Tip: schedule a play date with a mom just because when you’re picking up the kids from school
5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.
6. Volunteer time to supporting your local church or charity. Every minute you dedicate to a church or charity will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.
Tip: Bring the kids along so they can see acts of giving
7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants.
Tip: grab thank you card packets from the Dollar Store and just send off a postcard in the mail.
I know this is a list of 7 ways to put a smile on someone’s face, but there is one more way that can’t be ignored. Reveal a genuine smile to everyone you meet. You will experience how easy it is to get others to smile!
In today’s fast paced society, we’ve become accustomed to filling the eeriness of silence with fluff. We turn to many distractions as a means of escaping feelings of idleness or boredom. But the main thing we wish to elude is loneliness. Solitude does not have to alienating or lonesome. In fact, solitude and loneliness are distinctly separate.
The death of a loved one or the inability to find people who understand you can leave you feeling isolated. Webster’s dictionary plainly describes loneliness as “being without companions.” It’s natural to experience an emptiness while longing for love or acceptance. Loneliness is therefore an emotive state that can be experienced whether or not one is physically alone.
It was Geoffrey F. Fisher who said, “In cities no one is quiet but many are lonely; in the country, people are quiet but few are lonely.”
We tend to fill loneliness with all types of distractions. For example, some single women would rather spend a Friday night with a man they have no genuine interest in, than spend the night alone. They long for a way of killing time while they await the man they are actually seeking. Then there are young adults who are involved in cliques where they can’t really relate to their companions. However, they would rather feel accepted on a superficial level than risk feeling outcast. So what is it about being alone that scares us?
Do not be spooked by the unfamiliarity of silence.
- Silence can be an amazing thing. It teaches you how to truly listen.
- It teaches you to pay attention to what’s going on inside of you.
Only when we are alone, can we have the space and peace we need to think without being outwardly influenced. It therefore becomes easier to make important decisions as well as identify whatever feelings are culminating within.
Get in touch with yourself so that you can make conscious decisions rather than simply react to emotions. Appreciate the time you have to yourself. Let the peace and understanding you find better equip you for the commotion of today’s world.
Love her and her deep thoughts because she saying the things I want to say
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No mom is free of escaping the guilt of going back to work after having a child. This is normal. What’s not normal is constantly beating yourself up about it.
The hardest job in the world is being a stay-at-home mom, hands down and I don’t care what anyone has to say. However, I never wanted that life.
I yearned to be a career-oriented woman making my own money but I didn’t know how to remove the guilt of going to work after giving birth. The idea gave me major separation anxiety. I didn’t think anyone would love and attend to their needs like me, including my mother-in-law who had ten children.
Looking back on it now, I see that I was delusional. If you ask me, I think giving birth screws with a woman’s mentality. Our reality gets distorted and all rational thinking is tossed out the window.
Luckily, I was blessed to find a wonderful private daycare provider who treated my children so well that she became a lifelong friend to my family. This made it easy to transition back into the workforce and lifted the heavy burden off my shoulders.
Managing work and home was difficult. After working an eight-hour day, I would put on my “Supermom” uniform and begin to do all the chores in preparation for the next day. I cooked dinner, I helped with homework, and at the end of the night, I was exhausted.
I didn’t realize that overcompensation was forming into my kryptonite. I was feeling remorse about choosing my career over my children. I had to keep up the persona that my home and family life was perfect or I would lose my superpowers.
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We’re going to try this for November and see how it goes.
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We’re not a young couple so we don’t know what the outcome could be, although me and #mademynight are happy with playing UNO and drinking cider, giggling.
Women aren’t broken if they can’t have children.
I felt as if someone had raided my body and pummeled my heart until it bled and broke. It hurt to breathe. It hurt to think.
Hell, it hurt to live.
I couldn’t fathom what had just happened. Mere hours ago, there had been a living being inside of me. I’d heard her heartbeat. I’d seen her on the ultrasound. I’d even felt her kick as she shuffled within my womb. I’d fantasized about her beautiful bright eyes, her smile, her chortle, the way she’d feel in my arms when I first held her, and the incredible and sacred mission of raising her.
The notion of having a child after trying so hard was both nerve-wracking and exhilarating. Every time I traced my hands across my belly, an indescribable wave of compassion, delight, and longing flooded through my body, warming me with the certainty that I’d do everything in my power to ensure a good life for her.
And now? Now there was emptiness. Abysmal loss. Anger. Maddening sadness. Despair.
“Forgiveness is for you and not the other person,” is a statement that I’ve heard several times and it would always make me cringe. How would forgiving someone help me and set me free?
For a long time, I didn’t know how to forgive. I didn’t know how to “let go” of what someone else did which proved to be significant after my divorce. I never forgave my ex-husband because I was angry about what took place in our marriage and how it ended. I was satisfied with blaming him for his actions which made me very bitter.
Four years post my divorce, I decided to go on a spiritual and personal development journey to discover why I held so much anger. While on my journey, I realized that I was entertaining the same type of relationships which caused hurt and disappointment. My life wasn’t changing for the better. It was a new year and a different age, but the results were the same which led me to believe that I was a broken woman.
How could I be a broken woman? I took care of the home, I made sure that our children had what they needed, and went out with my friends occasionally. I spent time with family and did volunteer work.
If you checked out my social media, I was always smiling and it appeared as if I was living my best life, but there was a pain that existed that no one could see, including me.
Truth be told, forgiveness was never a strength of mine. I just didn’t know how to let go of the hurt, frustration, and disappointment that would arise when the wrong people entered into my life, but today is a new day because I have chosen to forgive. By making it a choice, it opened my heart and mind to start a new journey.
It was also necessary to educate myself about forgiveness. The more I learned about it, the easier life became. Here is what I learned: