Category Archives: Motivational
Somewhere around age 12, kids start locking their bedroom doors. Decide where you’ll draw the line on tween and teen privacy.
It happens. Somewhere between the ages of 12 and 13 your kid starts locking his door.
I remember approaching my son’s room a few years back, laundry piled past my nose, when I couldn’t turn the door knob and burst in like I always had in the past.
I stared at the knob for a minute, and then looked back down the hall to make sure I was in the right place.
“Hello?” I called.
“Why is your door locked?” I asked in disbelief.
“What do you want?” he called back, seemingly exasperated.
I was in shock. What do I want? I’m the mother. I have 15 pounds of laundry that I’m about to drop, and I can’t open one of the doors in my house!
My son, of course, opened the door with the standard I-can’t-believe-you’re-bothering-me look on his face.
We have since compromised. He no longer locks the door, but I knock first and introduce myself, “This is your mother. Remember me? I need to speak with you for a minute.”
At some point, your teen will want more privacy and he or she – just like my son – might start locking the door.
Do you ever play favorites among your kids, or know parents who do? The impact of parental favoritism, good and bad, may run deeper than you think.
As a former Cody Comet this is near and dear to my heart and I need you guys to help and support my high school sister, Kenyetta M Peoples who is really awesome.
Late Night #MotownMom Confession: My kids never celebrated Halloween cuz I was a broke single mom. I would just tell them it was the Devil’s Weekend & since we lived in Detroit they believed me & never asked.
It wasn’t that I was ashamed to be a single mom or even broke, I just knew I couldn’t spend money on three kids to dress them up.
I know what you’re saying, I could have easily made something up around the house. I’m creative.
Yeah, but I’m tired and I was not about to exert any energy on three kids, when I worked a full-time job, was a full time published author, head of the household and barely scrapping two pennies together to get heat.
Dressing the kids up for Halloween was the last thing on my list and I enjoyed my peace over their happiness.
I sometimes extended myself, if we had a car to take them to a church friendly function where they could get a bag of candy and have a go.
Otherwise, after Halloween, I’d wait for the costumes to become discounted and buy about twenty dollars worth put it in their dress-up trunk and let them use them throughout the year to just have fun around the house.
Do I feel any sort of guilt by having them miss out on things like that for their childhood?
My peace of mind was really more important and once my oldest was big enough to walk around and understand what Halloween really was, she actually took the youngest one out once or twice in the “nice” parts of Metro Detroit, but like me, she wasn’t into all that walking around and funny, the younger one wasn’t all into getting candy since I never had candy readily around the house.
On a side note, I’d also buy the discounted candy and use it for their Thanksgiving and Christmas bags.
A novel psychological therapy that encourages addressing emotional experiences related to trauma, conflict and relationship problems has been found helpful for people with the chronic pain condition fibromyalgia. A research team led by Mark A. Lumley, Ph.D., distinguished professor of psychology in the College of Liberal Arts and Sciences at Wayne State University, in collaboration with a team from the University of Michigan Medical Center led by David A. Williams, Ph.D., professor of anesthesiology, has released the results of its research in the prestigious journal, PAIN.
In the randomized clinical trial, 230 adults with fibromyalgia received one of three treatments, each of which was presented for eight weekly sessions to small groups of patients. The new therapy, which Lumley and co-developer Howard Schubiner, M.D., director of the Mind Body Medicine Program at Providence Hospital, call Emotional Awareness and Expression Therapy (EAET), helps patients view their pain and other symptoms as stemming from changeable neural pathways in the brain that are strongly influenced by emotions. EAET helps patients process emotional experiences, such as disclosing important struggles, learning how to adaptively express important feelings — especially anger and sadness but also gratitude, compassion, and forgiveness — and empowering people to be more honest and direct in relationships that have been conflicted or problematic.
How to keep your kids and yourself safe when gunshots are fired around your house #MotownMom Musings #UrbanLife #Detroit
On Facebook and a friend in Detroit says she just heard shots fired outside her home and then immediately said it’s time to freaking move.
I hate to break it to people, crime is not just in the urban areas anymore. Matter of fact, the more I look at the news (which has been something new to me recently) the more it seems it’s safer in Detroit.
As a long time Detroiter and lover of the city, my children and I have a protocol which I implore all single parents to develop and make sure it’s stuck to no matter what.
As single parents, we don’t have the luxury of just getting up and moving out of the city, and we have to teach the children how to cope with the environment and to stay safe.
Single Mom’s Safety Tips: When you hear shots fired around your home, what should you & your kids do?
- Do not go to the window. Please enforce this with your children. Don’t open the doors, don’t even peek out the curtains or blinds.
- Shut off lights inside the house you’re not using, but put on lights outside of the house to keep people from hiding around your house. Add motion lights on the outside of your home especially in spots you can’t see if you have to look out of a window. Also, invest in a camera system outside of your home. One in the back and home in the front. I suggest the Blink system for about $200. Best investment ever.
- If the gunshots sound close enough it’s okay to call 911, say shots were fired, give them the street and cross-street and if you don’t want to give them your address just tell them at the beginning, middle or end of the block. If you see anything let them know that too. You don’t have to leave your name or number, but at least do your part in reporting it.
- Afterwards, do something that calms you. Read, write, watch a funny movie to take your mind off the stress
In your community, what do you do when shots are fired?