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“Must Read” #MichLit Author, @DesCooper, Know The Mother…. will touch the soul! #MotownMom

Detroit, Michigan, journalist and author, Desiree Cooper, has released her wonderful book of poems and prose with Wayne State Press called Know The Mother. A beautiful literary work of art that will touch the soul.

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While a mother can be defined as a creator, a nurturer, a protector-at the center of each mother is an individual who is attempting to manage her own fears, desires, and responsibilities in different and sometimes unexpected ways. In Know the Mother, author Desiree Cooper explores the complex archetype of the mother in all of her incarnations. In a collage of meditative stories, women-both black and white-find themselves wedged between their own yearnings and their roles as daughters, sisters, grandmothers, and wives.

In this heart-wrenching collection, Cooper reveals that gender and race are often unanticipated interlopers in family life. An anxious mother reflects on her prenatal fantasies of suicide while waiting for her daughter to come home late one night. A lawyer miscarries during a conference call and must proceed as though nothing has happened. On a rare night out with her husband, a new mother tries convincing herself that everything is still the same. A politician’s wife’s thoughts turn to slavery as she contemplates her own escape: “Even Harriet Tubman had realized that freedom wasn’t worth the price of abandoning her family, so she’d come back home. She’d risked it all for love.” With her lyrical and carefully crafted prose, Cooper’s stories provide truths without sermon and invite empathy without sentimentality.

Know the Mother explores the intersection of race and gender in vignettes that pull you in and then are gone in an instant. Readers of short fiction will appreciate this deeply felt collection.

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A 2015 Kresge Artist Fellow, Desiree Cooper is a former attorney, Pulitzer Prize-nominated journalist and Detroit community activist whose fiction dives unflinchingly into the intersection of racism and sexism. Using the compressed medium of flash fiction, she explores intimate spaces to reveal what it means to be human. Her fiction and poetry have appeared in Callaloo, Detroit Noir, Best African American Fiction 2010, and Tidal Basin Review, among other online and print publications. Her first collection of flash fiction, Know the Mother, was published by Wayne State University Press in March 2016. Cooper was a founding board member of Cave Canem, a national residency for emerging black poets. She is currently a Kimbilio fellow, a national residency for African American fiction writers.

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#Michigan Women’s Caring Program Child Day Care Scholarships #MotownMom

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There are so many families that are making too much income to qualify for DHS Child Day Care assistance, but just not enough to afford to pay for Child Day Care on their own.  Please share.

These scholarships are designed for families whose income is above the range of state and federal assistance, but below a comfortable existence for necessities like childcare.

Please share with client’s as a resource for families that may not qualify for Child Day Care.

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[video] Parenting By Instinct – The Karen Walrond @chookooloonks Show – Episode 2 frm @cafemomstudios #motownmom

I enjoy cafemom on YouTube and wanted to share the Karen Walrond Show. More details below.

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There is so much advice out there for parents, but some experts believe that moms might already know the right things to do! Today, Karen speaks with Dr. Laura Markham, author of “Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids” ( about how to raise your children by following your own instincts.

Karen Walrond is an award-winning lifestyle, travel, inspiration and photo blogger ( In this show, she speaks with moms and experts about her belief that what makes us different makes us beautiful — and may even be the source of our superpowers.

Watch all of Karen’s shows here!

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Wednesday @Wisebread: Great Ways to Generate Passive Income #motownmom

In this day and age, having a disposal income to a household (whether it’s a one parent or two) is almost a necessity. Depending on “the man” to give us the income we need is becoming more and more scarce, so going things outside of work or around our work has helped a lot of households get the bills paid and bring stability.

Our friends at have come up with great suggestions.

Great Ways to Generate Passive Income

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Earning income passively is a dream for most people, since it essentially means you make money without putting in a significant time investment. Most sources of passive income will require time and some money to get started, but if successful, these opportunities can generate income for you long-term and without your direct involvement. (See also: 4 Reasons Why Everyone Needs Side Income)

Here are some great ways to generate passive income.



If you have other suggestions, please add them to the comments or if you’ve started your own endeavor, let our readers know so we can support you!

FREE KINDLE E-BOOK ALERT: Time for mom-Me: 5 Essential Strategies for A Mother’s Self-Care by Mia Redrick #motownmom

FREE KINDLE E-BOOK ALERT: Time for mom-Me: 5 Essential Strategies for A Mother’s Self-Care by Mia Redrick

Time for mom-Me: 5 Essential Strategies for A Mother’s Self-Care by Mia Redrick

Congratulations, Mom! You’ve read books about what to expect when you are pregnant, how to care for your newborn, and tips on raising your children. Finally, here’s a book for all moms who devote their time and energy to everyone else, yet inevitably leave little for themselves. Time for mom-Me is a book that shows you how to include your needs in your daily schedule. As a successful mom and personal coach to mothers with children of all ages, Mia Redrick teaches mothers that “Self-care is not negotiable, but necessary to be the best you, as well as the best parent.” Mia helps moms realize their dreams and aspirations, while showing them how to thrive at mothering as a result of self-satisfaction. Her proven strategies help mothers everywhere find time, grow personally, self-connect and assign meaning to their lives. Practical and inspirational, Time for mom-Me will teach you powerful strategies for taking charge of your life.


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Local Mom and Social @meetups in Metro Detroit

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I love to support groups of women, parents and children who want to get together face to face.

New Meetup Group!

Cafe Mocha Lattes

Listed in: Women’s Social, Women’s Business Networking, Women Small Business Owners, Weekend Adventure & Travel, Women Entrepreneurs, and 10 more topics.
Organized by:
Vivian Vernell
We are a socializing, networking, and traveling group for women. Our sole purpose is to support community associations and non-profit organizations that focus on women’s issues and interests. MISSION: To give back to the community through volunteerism, fund-raising, and organizing and participating in community awareness events. VISION: To build a social network of strong female leaders; women who… [read more]

Other Meetups you might like

I am Happy Project – Detroit, MI
87 Happy People • Detroit, MI

Listed in: Social Networking, Women’s Social, Friends, I am Happy Project, Personal Growth, and 10 more topics.

Ace Barter of Michigan
18 Members • Ferndale, MI

Listed in: Small Business Marketing Strategy, Business Referral Networking, Women Entrepreneurs, Small Business, Professional Networking, and 5 more topics.

GOT-MICHIGAN (Get Out There Michigan)
320 Michiganders (Members) • Detroit, MI

Listed in: Friends, Michigan, Travel, 20’s & 30’s Social, Meeting New People, and 10 more topics.

Mothers And Daughters Expressions (M.A.D.E.)
11 Mothers and Daughters • Detroit, MI

Listed in: Women’s Social, Single Parents, Work at Home Moms, Women’s Empowerment, Working and Stay at Home Moms, and 10 more topics.

Travel Buddies
341 Travel Buddies! • Dearborn, MI

Listed in: Social, group travel, Ireland Group Trip, Greece Group Trip, Cruise, and 8 more topics.

Hostelling International-Michigan Council
179 Travelers • Detroit, MI

Listed in: Adventurers, Walking, Singles, Backpackers, Camping, and 10 more topics.
If you have a meetup group and would like to share your group with us, we’d love to feature you and show others what you do. We can also arrange to do a personal interview. Just contact us.

Article: Making the Most of Motherhood – Tips For New Moms

Expert Author Ebele Agu

Some women become mothers without the realization of the mixed blessings or the responsibilities of the role they just got into. While motherhood brings joy to those who want it and understand what goes with it, it can bring depression to a lot of other women hence the term postpartum depression which occurs in about 10% of pregnancies within a few days or even month after delivery. Its prevalence rate is approximately 1 in 679 or 0.15% or 400,000 people in USA (Source: Postpartum Depression Fact Sheet).

Becoming a mother is a role that one should be mentally and psychologically prepared for. Unfortunately no matter how one prepares for motherhood, we are not always ready for the relentless crying, sleepless nights, unknown ailments etc that comes with the baby package. Some of us develop coping mechanisms, others research to be better informed, and others have a great support system. Whatever you have, some of the tips below will ensure that you understand what to expect as a new mother:


    1. Arm yourself with information: with many resources out there, it is not difficult to find the issues you may be dealing with. While scouring the pages of books or website, remember you may be inundated with information overload. This can be contradictory and confusing, make sure that any information you receive and you want to try out is verified.
    1. Do not compare yourself to the mother next door: you want your baby to have the best of toys/gadgets imaginable. Note that too much stuff does not result to the smartest kid on the block. Focus on the love and attention that your baby craves from only you and give that. Most of the toys will not be used and you will end up spending money unnecessary. Another area of worry for most new mothers is that the mother next door lost all baby weight within two months and you after six months post delivery are still struggling. Realize that all bodies are different; doing such comparison will only leave you more upset.
    1. Comparing your baby to other babies: there is a reason that milestones are given a time frame. If your child does not walk at 10 months like your sister’s son did, wait till at least 15 to 18 months before you hit the panic button. If your child did not talk at 18 months wait till at least two before you seek a speech therapist. I know more than one kid including mine that didn’t really speak a lot till four years old and they are all doing well no.
    1. Give yourself a break: you are not a supermom, and there is no award for that yet, till then you need to ensure that you not only take care of the baby, you also need to take care of yourself. Consider this, if you do not take care of your health or well being, who will take care of your family if something happens to you? To avoid being unhappy, make sure you schedule ‘me times’ for yourself.
    1. Have a support group: when I had my second son, my support group which consists of a group of wonderful women helped me through the first month and above. I did not have family around me, these ladies ensured that I didn’t have to worry about feeding my immediate family and concentrate on taking care of the baby. Your support group could be your family or your friends; they are also the people that can help you babysit so you can have time for yourself.
  1. Prepare meals ahead: one tip that I learned and will definitely use if number three shows up is making meals ahead that will come in handy for 2-4 weeks after the birth of your child. If you have a large freezer, this is a great strategy to use. It frees your time to do other things and the rest of your family can just heat and serve without needing you. If you have to go back to work, preparing meals ahead and freezing ensures you eat homemade meals more often than processed or dining out. It is also okay to prepare baby food in batches and freeze to safe time when you need it most.


Whatever is the case, motherhood comes with a certain delight that is better experienced than told. There is no one size fits all method, do what you believe is best for your baby, you and your family.

Ebele Agu is a mom to two energetic and adorable boys ages 4 and 19mths. I am always searching for ways to improve the lives of my family and those around me.

She is a teacher, who wants the best for the kids she teaches. I have a passion for education and to do what is right for everyone.

To read my musings, find me at

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Article: 3 Things Every Parent Must Consider via @ebony_12


Expert Author Ebele Agu

If you are a parent, with at least a 2-year old, you may have asked yourself if there is a child’s manual out there. Unfortunately, there isn’t.

Parenting is not easy; it fills you with doubts and unanswered questions. It is also a very fulfilling and humbling experience. I have two boys, a four-year old and an 18 month old. They are both very energetic and they wear me out. I am a working mother, which compounds the effect of the toll they take on me. I still love them dearly and like every parent out there, must consider the following:

    1. Their well-being: From the day a child is born, the child has to at least eat and be clothed. Unless you decide to use cloth diapers, you also have to consider diapers in your budget. While you might spend about $30 in cloth diapers, you will spend an average of $500-$800 in diapers for the first year of your baby. If you choose to breastfeed only, you will reduce the cost of formula. You can also combine breastfeeding and formula feeding to bring down cost. There is also a cost associated with toys. There are some toys that can be done away with if you have a tight budget. Better still, you can get creative and hand-make toys for your child.
    1. Education: This is a strong consideration as soon as a child is born. If you are a working mother, you will budget the cost of daycare till preschool. Then you have to decide if your child will attend a public/charter school or a private school. Regardless of what type of school your child attends in their early life, a college education is what most parents wish for and this is rising yearly. “The average cost of a bachelor’s degree is $25,143 per year at a private college and $6,585 at a public college or university, according to the 2008-09 reports released by the College Board. About 56 percent of students pay less than $9,000 in tuition and fees per year, the board found, while only 9 percent pay more than $33,000. These averages do not include room and board.” Source: The Average Cost of a Bachelor’s Degree on
  1. Raising the child right: This is the one part that has little or no monetary value and in my opinion the hardest. Depending on what you consider a “good” kid, every parent has different parenting skills to raise a well-mannered and respectful child. Some resort to spanking, others to time outs, and others to both. One thing is certain; you are the role model of your children. They will learn a lot more from you than any other person. Based on this, regardless of whatever disciplining methods you choose for your child, maintaining a consistent and constant positive behavior in front of them is imperative to their well-being.

While being a parent may seem difficult and daunting, it is fulfilling and shouldn’t be disparaged. When you become a parent, do know that you have a good task ahead of you.

Ebele Agu is a mom to two energetic and adorable boys ages 4 and 19mths. I am always searching for ways to improve the lives of my family and those around me.
She is a teacher, who wants the best for the kids she teaches. I have a passion for education and to do what is right for everyone.

To read my musings, find me at

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FREE BOOK: Baby Codes: Top Ten Tips to Help Your Baby Sleep Kevin Mills @BabyCodes #FreeFriday #FridayReads

Here’s another Free read for our readers. Enjoy!

Baby Codes: Top Ten Tips to Help Your Baby Sleep

Ebook By Kevin Mills
Rating: Not yet rated.
Published: Oct. 29, 2010
Category: Non-Fiction » Parenting » Pregnancy and Child Birth
Category: Non-Fiction » Relationships and Family » Parenting
Words: 2963 (approximate)
Language: English

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Extended Description

Parents today are worn out, sleep-deprived and simply exhausted. They need quick and easy solutions to helping their baby sleep through the night. Baby Codes: Top Ten Tips provides 10 easy-to-understand suggestions to help them unlock the keys to their child’s unique sleep preferences. They’re not only fast and applicable, they’re all absolutely Free.

Available Ebook reading formats:

This book is free.

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