#MotownMom: How I Overcame The Guilt Of Being A Working Mom via #blackruby

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No mom is free of escaping the guilt of going back to work after having a child. This is normal. What’s not normal is constantly beating yourself up about it.

The hardest job in the world is being a stay-at-home mom, hands down and I don’t care what anyone has to say. However, I never wanted that life.

I yearned to be a career-oriented woman making my own money but I didn’t know how to remove the guilt of going to work after giving birth. The idea gave me major separation anxiety. I didn’t think anyone would love and attend to their needs like me, including my mother-in-law who had ten children.

Looking back on it now, I see that I was delusional. If you ask me, I think giving birth screws with a woman’s mentality. Our reality gets distorted and all rational thinking is tossed out the window.

Luckily, I was blessed to find a wonderful private daycare provider who treated my children so well that she became a lifelong friend to my family. This made it easy to transition back into the workforce and lifted the heavy burden off my shoulders.

Managing work and home was difficult. After working an eight-hour day, I would put on my “Supermom” uniform and begin to do all the chores in preparation for the next day. I cooked dinner, I helped with homework, and at the end of the night, I was exhausted.

I didn’t realize that overcompensation was forming into my kryptonite. I was feeling remorse about choosing my career over my children. I had to keep up the persona that my home and family life was perfect or I would lose my superpowers.

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