#MotownMoxieMom: Do You Regret Being A Mother? Here’s How To Get Over It via #blackruby
A momentary feeling of regret having children is normal and natural when a mom or dad is feeling overwhelmed, helpless or stressed.
While many may find it hard to admit, but it is perfectly natural for moms to feel an occasional tinge of momentary regret about having children, especially when she’s overwhelmed, exhausted, in a power-struggle with her child, or particularly if she’s a single mom. However, there is a smaller percentage of mothers who deep down inside knew that they would not be a good mother and honestly did not want children.
It is important to understand that a momentary feeling of regret having children is normal and natural when a mom or dad is feeling overwhelmed, helpless or stressed. I define moments of ‘stress’ as those times when you want your child do what you requested but they don’t, etc. These feelings of regret usually pass quickly and should never be spoken out loud to the child(ren).
Feelings of regret can diminish, shift, and even evolve into feelings of affection and deep love. The toughest phase for parents seems to be the toddler phase when the child must claim themself as a separate being from Mommy and Daddy through resistance, temper tantrums, saying no, and general disagreement. If the parent doesn’t feel rejected or get caught into an unresolved war with the youngster, they most often can move forward to a better place in the early elementary school years.
Here are a few steps parents can take when they are feeling a moment of regret.